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‘The Pretentious Monogamists’ (I)
Published Dec 20, 2020 IN BONANO ANALYSIS, Blitz,
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 Chastity is the most unnatural of all sexual perver­sions.” Aldous Huxley, who wrote this, would not have been surprised by any such survey. Indeed, had monogamy been natural, restrictions imposed by marriage would not have been required. Animal behav­iour is governed by biological needs and multiple sexual partners create genetic variation essential for evolution. Even in the oft-quoted monogamous birds, recent DNA studies reveal that the male is often not the father and re-pairing occurs to improve reproductive choices. Hu­man beings are no different, biologically.


If we Christians keep insisting on this fallacy called One-man/One-wife, too many ladies will end up sleep­ing with different married men secretly while trying to make money and waiting for their own husband. Too many ladies will remain in their parents’ house till their 30s and some will live alone till their 40s. Most women, who lose their husbands in their 40s and 50s, will never find another man to marry them legitimately; they will end up sleeping around with different men.


Men and women are not equal and God never made us to be equal. Let’s stop adopting all these ‘Oyinbo’ (Western) law that forces Christian men to marry only one wife, while leaving several Christian ladies without husband and invariably leading many of them into doing “bad things” in secret.


Sincerely, I was at a Church service recently for wid­ows and a pastor, who wanted to give food items to the over 100 widows said: “Any woman in this service who can boldly say she has not opened her legs for any man since her husband died should come out to the front”. Sadly, the number of women, in their 40s and 50s, who came out were less than 20. That is the reality that the so called Christians are hiding from.


It was at the church service for the 90th birthday of a legendary matriarch that the thoughts which prompted this analysis were conceived. Some well-known highly placed gentlemen and their wives were called upon to partake in the wine sipping and bread breaking ritual called Holy Communion. As soon as these respectable ladies and gentlemen, all of them above 70 years and amongst whom were renowned professors, high court judges, legal luminaries and business moguls, finished their spiritual blessing and were returning to their seats, they caught a pitiable sight in their over-flowing garb of hypocrisy.


They wore forlorn mien plastered with furrowed frowned faces like someone afflicted with putrid smell of heavy dose of fart. They looked as if they were mourning a three-year-old boy mistakenly killed by his own father, or the passing of a poor woman who has just succumbed to excruciatingly painful cancer.


They clung to their wives as if they were newly wedded. I temporarily forgot that I was in a holy Church, the spiritual enclave of Christians. I almost laughed my head off because through commission or omission I knew each of these ‘holy’ ‘monogamous’ men and by stroke of coincidence, I knew of their second, third or fourth wives/liaisons/ mistresses with whom they had sired several children.


To the whole world they were champions of monogamy, but to their hearts and conscience they were celebrated po­lygamists, or at best, serial monogamists. Hahahahahaha!


I saw pain written all over them; the agony of living a lie, the unease of hypocrisy, and the shame of going through life pretending to be what you are not.


This is the sort of agony a lot of the so-called monoga­mists go through all their lives. The series of lies they sell to their wivesand the double life they present to their pastors and church leaders, most of whom are actually equally guilty of hypocrisy and double life living.


Please, do not get me wrong; this analysis is not set out to condemn or criticize monogamy. Monogamy is good for those who believe in its concept and can genuinely keep to it. I too have been married to one lovely woman for almost 18 years and it has been like a marriage made in heaven. I happen also to be the promoter along with some friends of ‘Young Married Men Forum’ which is geared towards the upliftment and celebration of marriage and family values.


Rather, this analysis by is designed to expose the hy­pocrisy and pain associated with embracing false notions which are really not observed by any culture in the world and to advise those who erroneously sentence themselves to a life of sadness and emptiness because they were de­ceived to believe that there is some utopia somewhere, called monogamy.


I am very much aware that this analysis will gener­ate a lot of controversy, especially from those who live holier-than-thou life and have continued to deceive the world that they are upholders of a doctrine that is not supported by true and enlightened interpretation of any religious doctrine.


The white men, (Oyinbo man) I am yet to see any human being whose skin colour is like that of chalk, came and told the unfortunate lands they invaded that the cherished cultures, traditions and religions of such lands were rub­bish and, instead, indoctrinated them with values which they themselves never believed in or truly practiced.


We know of King Henry Vlll and several major histori­cal figures in ‘Christian’ Europe who had more than one wife in addition of a string of wives who their ‘laws’ forbade them to address as wives but who nonetheless perform all the functions of wife minus name.


God bless President Mitterrand, who openly con­fessed to having two women in his life, with the one in the other house with whom he fathered an 18-year-old daughter at the time he passed on.


I have read historical books and research works based on culture and tradition by renowned writers of virtu­ally all the continents of the world and I make bold to say with all emphasis at my disposal, that no culture on planet earth truly practices monogamy.


Many Greek, Italian, Russian, British, American and other Caucasians routinely visit their other wives (called by other names) with whom they have children. But back in the homes shared with the one carrying the ring, they are monogamists! Yet,, they make bold to come to Africa to infiltrate and brainwash us into believing that monogamy is the only way? What rubbish!


If God had wanted humanity to be monogamous, He would not have made the pigeon the only monogamous creature. The cultures that practice polygamy had al­ways known that at any given time, the number of avail­able marriageable women far outnumber available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old man, if he has money, is still very much in the market whereas a 50-year-old woman may not be that lucky.


The biological limitation to a woman’s productive age is also a factor. Why should a woman, therefore, remain on the shelf till age 45 when she could jolly well get married as second or sixth wife to a man who can afford to share life’s responsibilities with her? Why should a woman leave a man with whom she is No 1, simply because he took a second wife and end up being numberless in the hands of several men with whom she naturally shares bed just because of some doctrine she hardly understands? All the women who should go and marry but are saying they do not want to share their man with another woman in a polygamous setting, are shar­ing current boyfriends and married men with several other women.


Where is the logic?

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